Sunday, August 19, 2007

FRIENDSHIP


How does one define freindship?? I think the simple definition is when people know all about you, but like you anyway. I think you need freinds as much as you need your food. I don't mean fake freinds. Real freinds. I remember back in the days when i used to think that it was fine being alone. I felt that i could take on everything by myself, & i convinced myself that i was fine being alone. Without freinds. Not that i did not want freinds but i did not know who to trust. You get me? It made me feel sad. I later realised that by sharing some of my burdens & anger with real freinds, i feel way much better. I know that my problem have not been solved but it just made me feel better inside.

You know, when i was younger, i used to think i was a quiet person cos i had no one to talk to. I read a lot of books & i felt better reading them. In one of the 1st posts i wrote when i started this blog, i talked about the issue of RACISM. In the post, i mentioned that i went to a girls private school the first time i came to school in England. That was were my loneliness began. Back at home in Nigeria, i had loads of frreinds from my old school & people always wanted to hang around with me. I was "Popular". I put it in quote cos i hate that word.

So, it was a change for me when i came here cos first of all i was surrounded my loads of white faces & they were so different from me. We were brought up in different ways. What i found funny, they didn't. What they found funny, i did not find funny. Lucky i had a room to myself in the dorms so i would always lock myself in the room. I hated school because i could not fit in. I was always chosen last for anything. I felt at first that it was because there were not laods of blacks there (it was the countryside), but later i changed my mind. They just didn't like me. I didn't like them too. I still keep in contact with some of the girls (who i could stand then). Not necessarily because i like them but because we do not know what the future brings.

Things have changed alot for me. Now i'm all loud & bubbly & people are always like to me "i thought you were quiet" & i would be like "yeah i thought so too". I talk so much that my friends tell me "ok, shut up". This is all because i kept so many things inside me & felt that i could combat loneliness but now i know bettter. It took time for me to get to where i am now, but i'm happy i've got there. I've got amazing freinds who i know are real & would be there for me. God knew that Adam would be lonely if he was alone, so he gave him Eve.

Yeah i have fights with my freinds but thats what freinds do; fight and then make up. If you have a freind that does not tell you the truth, they are not real. Being "REAL" is very important. If you have a good freind, cherish that person/people. Freinds are a gift from God.

37 comments:

diary of a G said...

indeed so
I had a similar case coming to canada but because i was younger and bigger than most the kids, the only time they could talk sh!t was in a "safe place", behind my back

real friends are the next best thing to family

Andy said...

I understand the whole scenario perfectly well Really good to have one's friends around, nothing else beats that!!!

pamelastitch said...

i agree with diary of g...

Real friends are the next best thing to family.

mack said...

dance~dance-- nice to meet you--

Nice blog. dance~dance

Naija Vixen said...

Real friends are the family you get to choose...we thank God for great friends!!!

Olamild said...

we've all had similar experiences but we've learnt to adapt. friendship is the best of all gifts.

Anonymous said...

Did u by any chance go to my 6-th form!......

Its good uve changed, for me those girls made me so insecure it was not funny, I always wished I was back in 9ja, while my friends back home envied me...the conundrum of life!

I am still quite a homebody and love my own space....but oh well...such is life!

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

We all go through stages, and all we can pray for is that with each new stage, we improve on who we are.

You are clearly happy with who you are and happy with the friends God has blessed you with. Congrats! Many people do not have what you've got...

Im A Babe said...

gurl where and how do i even begin to tell u abt the metamorphosis of my personality? people have different opinions of me.

some people say i am very quiet
some pple say i am loud
some say i am just hard 2 read.
really, it all depends on the pple involved, the environment and other things that come to place.

i believe i am alot more comfortable with myself now...tho i am stl learning abt me.

how u been gurl???

A Kel called Wonder ...... said...

Hey nice. Sometimes i wish i have friends. But am begining to learn to love me.

Most of my real friends are far away from me. But it's all good.

Vera Ikeji said...

Nice to have u back Chidi. I agree with Naija vixen, real friends are family u get to pick. I am not really into friends. I know A LOT of people but i keep VERY VERY few close. I talk a lot when i am wt family and friends. Lol. And like in ur case, i am always told "Vera, can u pls shut up? But when i am in unknown territories, i behave like a good girl and wait to be talked to first before i start nattering again. Lol. Another thing i like to do apart from talk is sing. I have got a nice 'talking voice' but my voice is TERRIBLE when it comes to singing. I don't let it deter me tho, i still go ahead and sing. And everytime i sing, ONLY family and friends tell me Vera, what do u want? we would do anything for u to stop singing. Lol.

יש (Yosh) said...

Good to hear u r where u r now. There's nothing like being happy with obvious personal developments.

And you know, I do that "book-reading" thing up till now cos it helps. If I want to withdraw, without causing me or others harm, I pick up a book or listen to some music.

Good to c u back! :)

Nyemoni said...

Friends to me are the family you choose....thanks for reminding us to cherish our friends with this post... have a blessed week!

Ugo Daniels said...

Yeaaaaaaaaaaaa, she's back. First, let me go and celebrate your coming backness with isiewu, then i'll back to drop my thots. Cheers!

La Reine said...

Yeah, real friends are like family you get to choose.
Whoever said that is on the money.

princesa said...

Some friends are even closer to you than family.

Good friends can improve ones life but bad friends,hmmmm....another story.

Glad to have you back sweet.

Manda said...

real friends r hard to find but try keep 'em close to ur heart if u ever get one.

Klara said...

I enjoyed reading this!

yayi said...

true friends are real and rare. nice post. how have you been?

chidi said...

guys i have decided to cut cut how much i post. i know i don't really post alot but i decided one in 2 weeks is more than enough. what do you think?

419naija said...

An excellent post

Nkem said...

You spoke so true my dear. That's why we like in a society, because we need to interract with people. You can't live a lonely life. One needs to have friends. We all have aquaintances and only the very lucky have the REAL FRIENDS. If you've found only one, you can consider yourself blessed.

I'm happy things turned out well for you at the end of the day. ;)xx

Jaybabe said...

Friends are okay to have and keep, but when times become hard, you won't find them here.

Just passed by to drop mine word.xx

wienna said...

Pls don't stop posting more often o. Or u don't have much to post anymore?

OUI C'EST MOI said...

friendships are almost worse than relationships,

Jaybabe said...

Passed by to check on you girl. How you dey? Haven't been in blogville for long. Hope you fine.

xx

Vera Ikeji said...

Update sweetie. Still waiting. Lol.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Haven't seen you around in a while and wanted to stop by and say hi!

Update, oh!

wienna said...

Another loooooooooong hiatus!

Blind-Truth Betold said...

having a good friend is like having a paycheck you can never finish spending.
anyway, where are you?
hope you didnt leave blogville.
pls update

Jaybabe said...

People..what kinda friend is this one? You been gone fo long now, ehh? Have you left Blogville or what?

AN IBO DUDE'S CORNER said...

hey friend...
where u @?

Tayo said...

Hey Girl, where on earth are you???

La Reine said...

Nice post, wondering what had you skipping down memory lane?
Good friends are a serious asset in this life.
Takia o'u

WeirdGurl said...

Happy father's day
http://weirdbabe.blogspot.com/

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Can't believe you've been AWOL for this long. Hope all is well.

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